Skip to main content

Music Class Dropout

When I was a toddling young lass, I was apparently a terror who pinched strangers at random. It wasn't an indiscriminate pinching problem, however, in that I was specific in targeting certain people. My victims were all apparently morbidly obese and/or ugly (to me, at any rate); at least, this is what my 2 year-old self told my mortified parents when they interrogated me afterwards. The reason why I pinched them was that I didn't like the way they looked.

I recount this story not to glorify judging people by their covers (which I don't agree with now) or pinching (also a no-no), but to say that Little L may come by this trait honestly. She likes who she likes, and she dislikes some people. Intensely.

One of these people happens to be her music class teacher, who also happens to be a very hefty lady who doesn't fit the general definition of attractive. Little L doesn't like her at all. In fact, she starts fussing the moment she realizes this woman is in the room, and continues fussing throughout the class until it ends.

Another Mel Braund image.  Isn't Little L lovely?

Now, bear in mind that Little L is usually pretty well-behaved. Sassy, yes. Loud, also yes. But she does well on airplanes and anywhere else so long as I am there. And I am always with her during the class.

She enters the room happy, until she sees or hears the teacher. The shift from joyful to miserable is instantaneous. Then Little L fusses, whines and cries for the entirety of the 30 minutes. Today, in a class with 10 kids aged 1-2 years old, only one was crying. My little girl.

So now that this has occurred twice, I'm starting to think my theory about Little L hating the teacher is correct. She loves listening to music, singing and dancing. She enjoys playing with her various instruments. And she enjoys being with other little kids, after a brief warm-up period. She gets a kick out of sitting on chairs and walking around in circles, and she likes to play in the morning at that time.  The usual explanations of fatigue/hunger/discomfort simply don't apply.

At the tender age of 14 months, Little L is becoming a music class dropout.  Yup, that's right.  I am withdrawing her from this class.  My rationale is as follows:

- at her age, if she feels uncomfortable with someone, I want to respect it.  I'm not sure why she has this aversion, but I'd much rather she listen to it than ignore it to her detriment, and I want her to understand that it's okay to be cautious/wary and in some cases, even avoid people that she feels a dislike towards.  As a grown-up, that sort of wariness will protect her.

- she's so young.  She has like 8 decades to have to deal with people she doesn't care for.  I'm not going to force it on her at this early stage in life if I can avoid it.

- I'm not too keen on the teacher myself.  She hasn't been very peppy (odd, especially since she is working with toddlers and little kids), and was kind of snarky about the fact that Little L put some of the instruments in her mouth (a totally normal response from a little person).

- I don't want Little L to form a negative association for music classes from one negative experience.  I'd rather she love the next music class I enroll her in, than stick it out in this one and subsequently never want to go to another class again.

And in an attempt to keep Little L enrolled in something, I've signed her up for Jump Gym toddler gymnastics! Hoping that this experience will prove more positive.  *fingers crossed*


Kitten said…
Belly, my daughter, is going through the same thing with the random disliking of people. She'll be perfectly happy with most people in the room, and then flip out because person X or person Y looks at her. It doesn't seem to be related to looks at all, and can hit either gender though she seems most strongly antagonistic to females. On the other hand, she'll flirt handily with some people for unknown reasons.

Popular posts from this blog

Gone with the FLLO - Traveling with the Clek FLLO

In previous posts, I've already detailed the awesomeness of Clek's FLLO seat, so no need for redundancy here. The true test of its greatness lies in how well it travels, since it is meant to be a "compact" and more portable version of the gargantuan FOONF.

Now, to be clear, we purchased a Clek WEELEE bag to transport our car seat on our flight to and from Maui, *and* we checked our car seat with our airline, which I know is a big CPS Tech no-no. They argue that any car seat that has been checked is as good as crashed, because the potential rough handling of the seat by the carrier compromises its integrity and could damage it internally. My experience (now that I've done it) is this:

a) The Weelee bag is very well padded and sturdy. Once I had the seat properly placed inside the bag, I felt that it was as good as any seat in a styrofoam-packaged box. The bonus, of course, is that unlike a box, the Weelee has a telescopic handle and deeply-grooved, rugged wheels, …

Outgrow. Outlast. - The Finale of Our BF Journey

To be completely honest, I almost didn't write this post. While I'm usually fairly open about my opinions and parenting choices, I've held this one pretty close to the vest in recent years, because it is a more controversial - and personal- decision than most others. Sadly, it is one that many Western mothers are also unfairly judged for, despite it being completely natural in many other parts of our world.

The choice: full-term, aka "extended," breastfeeding. Little L and I chose to continue our nursing journey beyond age 2, and 3, and even 4. In fact, we only weaned a couple of weeks ago. We had already stopped nursing in public and nursing on demand several years earlier, but it was only recently that Little L was ready to completely wean from her nighttime and early morning sessions; she had finally outgrown her need to drink from my milk. The most clear signs of this were her growing desire for "privacy" and alone time, and her "nye-nye"

An Eyeliner Switcheroo

For the past several years, I've been a very loyal Stila Stay All Day Waterproof Eye Liner fan. I mean, I use the stuff every single day, and I like to do dramatic wings on my eyes, so I need a quality eyeliner that is high pigment, won't smear, and has an amazing fine-tipped brush that will let me draw my eyeliner wings to a very long, dramatic tip. My standards are exacting when it comes to liquid liner. 

That said, my wallet hates me for it. Those amazing liners cost $30 a pop, and they only last a couple of months at the rate that I use them. 
So, as any responsible adult tries to do, I've attempted to save money and find a cheaper alternative. I've used all sorts of liners sent by IPSY, or bought at my local drugstore. Unfortunately, every attempt I've made has resulted in great regret. The brush applicator was too wide or too short. The eyeliner smudged too easily. The pigment wasn't dark enough. You get the idea.
However, I think I've finally found m…