Skip to main content

Access Granted?

Who do you allow on your social media accounts? Family only? Friends? Acquaintances? Fans? Colleagues? Everyone?!

While my Twitter is of course public, my FB is not. I've done some culling and it is now limited to just friends and family and a limited number of acquaintances. I might share an article or two publicly, but for the most part my information, status updates, and images are only accessible to a select few ;)

IG is a funny thing, though. It seems to exist in a middle ground between FB and Twitter. While it has a privacy setting to approve or deny people from following one's feeds, there is also a culture that accepts, and even encourages, being "followed" and "following" people like celebrities and fellow bloggers. It's not quite designed to be a private gallery space, but rather a partially public bulletin board.

It is in this space that I wrestle a bit with boundaries. I know that sometimes, there are people who read this blog who wish to see my IG pics because they feel kind of invested in my little family. I also know that there are some people who want to access my IG images because they've seen my comments on others' pictures, and are either curious about me or are critical of me based on these comments (which are entirely favourable, BTW; I make it a habit not to be a negative troll-type on IG). In the past, I've allowed access to other bloggers and mommies that I "know" online, but now I hesitate to grant access to anyone who I am not completely familiar with. I worry that the intention of wanting to see my pics is less than sincere, and I just don't wish to put Little L and I under some random person's microscope for no discernible reason. Am I being paranoid, or just reasonably cautious here? In denying requests, I do feel a bit guilty, since there is always the possibility that the person in question just wants to be my online friend.

Who do you allow on your IG feed? Have you ever had a gut-feeling that someone wants to befriend you on FB or follow your other social media for some nefarious reason? How do you determine whether someone's motives are sincere? Any feedback is appreciated!


Bonnie Way said…
Hmmm, good question! I've struggled with this because if I wasn't a blogger, I'd probably be one of those people to shut down my FB account. My Pinterest and Twitter accounts are definitely blog-related and public. My FB page is public so I'm careful about what I post there. My personal FB account, however, I try to keep private, so I've culled people there. I try to keep it to friends and family - people I've actually met in real life and would hang out with. I get a lot of fellow bloggers requesting "friendship" of me on FB and I usually turn it down... which sometimes makes me feel like a bad guy, but they can still message me and follow me and we participate in the same groups, but otherwise we aren't really "friends" so why pretend. :)
Sharon said…
Only 4% of my followers on IG are people I've never met, and will likely never meet, in real life at some point. As you know though, I post a lot on IG... And deleted FB for this very reason.

Popular posts from this blog

Gone with the FLLO - Traveling with the Clek FLLO

In previous posts, I've already detailed the awesomeness of Clek's FLLO seat, so no need for redundancy here. The true test of its greatness lies in how well it travels, since it is meant to be a "compact" and more portable version of the gargantuan FOONF.

Now, to be clear, we purchased a Clek WEELEE bag to transport our car seat on our flight to and from Maui, *and* we checked our car seat with our airline, which I know is a big CPS Tech no-no. They argue that any car seat that has been checked is as good as crashed, because the potential rough handling of the seat by the carrier compromises its integrity and could damage it internally. My experience (now that I've done it) is this:

a) The Weelee bag is very well padded and sturdy. Once I had the seat properly placed inside the bag, I felt that it was as good as any seat in a styrofoam-packaged box. The bonus, of course, is that unlike a box, the Weelee has a telescopic handle and deeply-grooved, rugged wheels, …

Outgrow. Outlast. - The Finale of Our BF Journey

To be completely honest, I almost didn't write this post. While I'm usually fairly open about my opinions and parenting choices, I've held this one pretty close to the vest in recent years, because it is a more controversial - and personal- decision than most others. Sadly, it is one that many Western mothers are also unfairly judged for, despite it being completely natural in many other parts of our world.

The choice: full-term, aka "extended," breastfeeding. Little L and I chose to continue our nursing journey beyond age 2, and 3, and even 4. In fact, we only weaned a couple of weeks ago. We had already stopped nursing in public and nursing on demand several years earlier, but it was only recently that Little L was ready to completely wean from her nighttime and early morning sessions; she had finally outgrown her need to drink from my milk. The most clear signs of this were her growing desire for "privacy" and alone time, and her "nye-nye"

An Eyeliner Switcheroo

For the past several years, I've been a very loyal Stila Stay All Day Waterproof Eye Liner fan. I mean, I use the stuff every single day, and I like to do dramatic wings on my eyes, so I need a quality eyeliner that is high pigment, won't smear, and has an amazing fine-tipped brush that will let me draw my eyeliner wings to a very long, dramatic tip. My standards are exacting when it comes to liquid liner. 

That said, my wallet hates me for it. Those amazing liners cost $30 a pop, and they only last a couple of months at the rate that I use them. 
So, as any responsible adult tries to do, I've attempted to save money and find a cheaper alternative. I've used all sorts of liners sent by IPSY, or bought at my local drugstore. Unfortunately, every attempt I've made has resulted in great regret. The brush applicator was too wide or too short. The eyeliner smudged too easily. The pigment wasn't dark enough. You get the idea.
However, I think I've finally found m…